Listening patience

Much of the time, while we are trying to listen to someone else, an idea pops into our mind. Then, we try to put it in a sentence. But rather than blurt it out, we try to hold onto it, rehearse it, forehear it. We end up listening to ourselves rather than the person talking. There is an intuitive way to determine who another person is listening to (himself or us). Notice the pause after you speak. No pause, no listening.